Mon 1230 to 125pm
Marb 222 .
Richard B and Mary C Miller
Healing distressed relationships: looking for inward answers
(Divorce rate is)
16% of women graduates
3x better for older, more educated women
Marriage is a dance
Therapy-
Rather than think I need to just "fix him"
Think: we are just not dancing well
1/2 divorces come from low conflict
The difference is commitment
Hong Kong on mission-
constraint commitment (with passports locked in a box)
no one went home early
change the relationship
from negative to positive
Relationship can usually heal
if the perpetrator "Repents their guts out"
Marymore University
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Part 2
Monday 150 pm to 245pm
MARB 222 Healing distressed marital relationships:the power of forgiveness
Rick and Mary Miller
Mary has MA in psychology
Rick is Department Chair of sociology at BYU
Faith and works
Repentance t Forgiveness
D&C 64: 8- 10
• Mother Theresa:
If you really want to love, you need to learn to forgive."
1990's social science changed
to accept
the concept of forgiveness
Frank Finchum
"Not forging will kill you"
Take a big step back and look at the big picture
Autistic daughter straight ticket to the celestial Kingdom as long as both
of you are keeping your covenants
and working hard
you know how the story is going to end
"Oh my goodness! Because of this trial, we will become so much closer to our Heavenly Father!"
Pornography: it can feel like an affair to you.
True repentance is feeling the other person's pain.
Being willing to help the other person heal.
I know you are still hurting. Just part of healing.
What more can I do to help you heal?
I hope you have a testimony of prayer.
Prayer can take you to the next level
that you cannot go on your own.
Mary's child:
help me feel
that this child is amazing
The person is
more than just the bad part.
Have compassion
for them as a human being.
1. Worst idiot in whole world
2. what he did is humble but he is a great father, etc.
Forgiveness
is not No consequences
Man went to temple:
How can I
Christ suffered for
our pains as well as our sins.
Write out our tithing check- put it in our wallet
Tithing.
Talk touched my heart and the spirit confirmed at.
I started to have faith that I am going to pay tithing first.
immediately thing began to get better.
Get it to some degree: Maybe I don't get it completely
Beg for understudy Of the atonement
and the power of Jesus in your life...
I know there is
an atonement
but I am not seeing it like I
would like to help in my life.
Please help me know what I need to do.
To know what is the next step.
I promise
He will
help you know.
Part 3
Monday 310pm to 405pm
MARB 222
Richard B Miller Mary Miller Healing distressed marriage relationships: The power of Repentance
1. Get rid of Junk
Repentance / Forgiveness
2. Fill with (growth and goodness)
Friendship is the root structure
of a strong Marriage
Graduate school.
Did Not go on a date
but called every day
"we are going through this together."
Our home is a busy, crazy home
Brother Miller studied with Carl Ford Broderick
Do not use The inspired card
"God told me"
That is unfair.
strength of personality
It does not wok
giving up tactics of force
Plan on it
looking worse at the beginning
It is 100%
guarantee
That they will soar like sister Marjorie Hinckley
You
live correctly.
Practice correct principles.
we can only get ourselves to the celestial
Kingdom.
Prayer in marriage
Prayer works.
It really does work.
Apostolic blessing
to the ward:
this blessing is to each of you individually
Friend less
anxious
Maybe not the life you would have chosen.
Exciting:
Yin are going to grow so close to your Father in Haven
Frank Fitchum from Florida State the effect of
prayer on - Marriage
His experiment
experiment was those who prayed
for their partner .
the feelings of love increased dramatically
Published in top journals
Pray asking Heavenly Father
to help you with that first step.
He will strengthen you.
Don't beat yourself up.
We are going to put that on the table right now.
You can heal and forgive without your partner.
I have a testimony of prayer.
Stephanie Maglbey
